Parent Guide - Real Friends: A Series About Friendship


Follow Up at home with Sunday Morning Talks

SUN: 9/8

 LUKE 6:31
JOHN 13:4-5

Be the friend you want to have. 

SUN: 9/15

Guard your inner circle. 

SUN: 9/29

 ACTS 15:36-41
You can be friendly without being friends. 


The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray.


In this phase, having good friends is incredibly important to teenagers. But finding real friendships is incredibly tricky (even as adults!). Often students don’t realize that having great friends is just as much about becoming as it is about finding. That’s why this week we’re encouraging students to take a step toward being a good friend by treating their friends the way they want to be treated.



Leave your teenager a note where they will see it as they get ready in the morning—on their backpack, on their mirror, or with their car keys. Remind them that no matter how things are going in their life or in their friendships at the moment, you’ll always be there for them!


Is there a new friend your student has been talking about recently or a name you don’t recognize? Ask them to invite them over. Don’t “grill” your kid’s friend with a bunch of questions—just spend time around them. You can learn a lot just by being in the same vicinity as your kid’s friends, and your kid will appreciate you not treating dinner like a job interview.


Do you know what your teenager and their friends like to do when they hang out? If not, ask them! Maybe they love watching movies. Or maybe they love playing video games or giving each other makeovers. Whatever it is, think of one thing you can do for your teenager and their friends the next time they’re hanging out—like paying for the movie rental or making them some popcorn. And do it “just because”—no agenda!


Before your teenager heads to bed, ask them how you can be praying for them or even their friends this week—maybe for a big game, big test, or even a friendship that isn’t going well right now. If they don’t have anything to share, don’t force conversation. Just letting your teen know that you’re thinking about them can be the win here!